Accept Who You Are Now
(Written by Nicole Amber)
When we are born we are only conscious of our present journey called life. We don’t remember anything prior to this. We come to reach higher levels of love and acceptance for ourselves as we are now, through our experiences. Until we arrive to this Knowing, we experience recurring patterns in our life, reliving the past and blocking the fulfillment of the Light from entering our present and future.
So why is it that we continually remember our past experiences and hold onto them? Because often it’s more comfortable than changing through letting go of the identity we have attached to ourselves. However comfortable this may feel, it doesn’t serve us in the long run and can lead to a lot of stress, pain and suffering.
The good news is we can give ourselves permission to start a clean slate for the New Year. It’s not about who we were and what we did yesterday, not even one hour ago. Each moment is a new opportunity to make new decisions and refresh our perspectives. In every moment that we let go of past hurts, pains, disappointments and future worries, we gain a little more inner peace and clarity.
We heal from our past and co-create our present and future, one step at a time.
How to Release Your Past and Create Space for Divine Living:
1. Replace the old “movie” with a new one.
Before beginning to take steps to heal from your past, you must have a genuine desire to let go in order to invite divine order into your present.
2. Let go of what no longer serves you. Release what you don’t need any more to make room for what you do need.
Donate clothes that don’t fit you that you haven’t worn in over a year.
Let go of the clutter. Remove from your premises any items that are no longer serving you.
Remember, it’s not necessary to let go of anything or anyone that you love or serves a purpose for you.
Once you finish, your energy field will be clear of the old to make space for the new.
If this kind of letting go is difficult for you to do, ask for help from a person who you are close to and who loves you. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much assistance you can receive by simply asking for help. You can turn this into a fun adventure.
3. Learn the lesson, change your perspective.
Identify what your experiences were meant to teach you and bring closure to them. Remember the good as well and adjust your perspective about the person(s) involved so that you can be at peace with yourself and release them.
4. Remove your masks and be yourself.
Direct your life and be responsible for how you lead it. If you don’t like how you have behaved in the past or the choices you have made, make a conscious decision to make changes.
Rediscover who you are. Be aware of your values and set your boundaries. Find a medium to express yourself authentically and naturally.
5. Make a list of things you’ve always wanted to do – Now, do them.
Make a list of 12 things you’ve always wanted to do, but didn’t have the time. Create a schedule for yourself and incorporate your list – this is the personal time you set aside for yourself to love and nurture your Being.
6. Forgive yourself and others – but remember the lessons.
What we see in others is often what we don’t want to see in ourselves. People and our experiences are a reflection of how we treat or have treated ourselves and/or others. Forgiveness is a way to release the toxic emotions that are within. Forgiveness is often easier said than done. There are many useful resources, prayers or meditations on forgiveness available. Search the Internet for one that resonates with you.
The following action helps me, when I’m not in a position to confront someone:
Write a detailed letter to the person you want to forgive but DO NOT send it. Write exactly how you feel and what you want to say to them. “It’s your party, so you can cry if you want to.” This is a guilt-free letter. Write quickly and do not re-read the letter to yourself or anyone else. If you make typos do not correct them, just keep writing until you feel satisfied. Once you’re finished, shred the letter and let it go. Remove the shredded letter from your environment by putting it into a recycle bin. Release it with Love and Light.
7. Heal your spirit, body and mind.
- Cleanse & Detoxify (physically, emotionally and mentally)
- Breathe deeply & Exercise
- Meditate/Pray (at least once in the morning and once in the evening before bed) to keep you from dwelling on the past and worrying about the future.
- Get involved with a group or community.
- Eat Well.
- Love and laugh for no reason at all
- Express daily gratitude for all that you have
8. Be open to guidance by ones who walk their talk
If you need assistance letting go, seek a person who can show you the door with no agenda. Be discerning with who you choose, by making sure they are a living demonstration of what you hope to realize for yourself. Don’t just take their word.
9. Be compassionate toward the higher good in the all.
One of the best ways to vibrate in Love, is to remember that we are all in true essence-Love. By seeing the good in everyone and every experience you can avoid falling into the trappings of negative emotions, especially hatred and judgement, for yourself and others.
10. Love and nurture your inner child……and play daily!
Spend time alone with yourself. Enjoy this sacred time to connect to your inner being. Do what you love or do nothing at all. This is your gift to yourself. You can sing, write, and pamper yourself – whatever brings out your truth and joy.
11. Trust and surrender to what is.
Know that everything happens for the higher good. When feeling pain, admit this to yourself, then ask what this experience is meant to show you. What good can be extracted from it? How can you be strengthened by it? What have you learned about yourself and life?
12. Release your worries to a higher source.
Every night before bedtime, visualize yourself handing over all your worries about the future to a Higher Source, knowing that tomorrow is another day with new beginnings.
Now and always celebrate your achievements of letting go, whether small or great! When you feel you’ve come to the place of graduating from your past, throw yourself a graduation party! You deserve it!