Ara Wiseman

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Self-Care During Challenging Times

Self-Care During Challenging Times

I was recently in Vancouver for a week to care for my brother and to set things up for him. It was challenging trying to navigate the homecare system and the personalities of the people involved with his care. During this difficult time, I realized that I needed to find ways to look after myself while accomplishing what needed to be done. Everyone has their own way of dealing with stressful situations. I always tell my students that we need to find healthy ways to weather the storms in our lives. I discovered a little cafe called Buddha Full and went there every day. I found it to be a great place to pick up a ginger shot, green juice, hot beverage, or smoothie. Knowing that we tend to store our difficult emotions in our body and the importance of finding ways to release those emotions, I made sure to make that a priority. I booked a foot massage and ended up having traditional Chinese cupping as well. Cupping stimulates acupuncture points using a glass cup that has been heated with a flame, causing suction and a partial vacuum. If you have never had cupping, the suction from the cups leave distinctive circular bruises on the places where the cups were applied, which fade over time. It helps to reduce inflammation, release muscle tension, improve blood flow and to remove toxins. Whenever I’m in Vancouver, I go to my favorite bookstore, Banyan Books. On this visit, I came across a book called, Self-Care for Empaths, written by Tanya Carroll Richardson. An empath is someone that is highly attuned to the feelings and emotions of others. They have a heightened capacity to feel the energy of people in their lives and can be overwhelmed by it. They can be adept at reading nonverbal communication such as body language, posture, and facial expressions. “Empaths lack the filters most people use to protect themselves from excessive stimulation and can’t help but take in surrounding emotions and energies, whether they’re good, bad, or something in between.”[1] I never understood why I get exhausted from certain situations and why it takes me longer to recuperate from them. I now understand myself on a deeper level and have been practicing ways to protect and preserve my energy. As a nutritional counsellor, being empathic can be a gift of having a deeper compassion and connection to my clients, helping them feel understood and heard. Empaths sometimes have difficulty deciphering if the emotions they are feeling are theirs or the other persons. To keep ourselves healthy we need to find ways to stay grounded and remain centered in our own energy, and to not take responsibility for others’ emotions.   Empaths like myself can unconsciously feel the need to calm someone down and make them feel better in order to not absorb their challenging or intense energy and emotions. It is important to try to help but it is just as important to maintain strong boundaries. Have you ever been at an event or get together and as soon as someone enters the room you feel their negative energy? Does it make you feel uneasy or overwhelmed? Do you feel the need to stay away from them to preserve and protect yourself? Here are some techniques you can practice to shield and protect yourself: [1] https://drjudithorloff.com/

Happiness

Happiness

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are – Anaïs Nin We all view reality through the filter of the emotional state we are in. If you wake up in a bad mood, worried, feeling stressed or overwhelmed, your energy will be low, and you will experience the events of your day through the lens of that negative emotional state. When we are stuck ruminating over problems in our heads, we are self-absorbed and not aware of all the opportunities and blessings that always surround us. When you approach the day with appreciation, gratitude and purpose, everything changes. Every day you have a fresh choice. You can choose a different experience simply by altering your perception. The happiest people in the world are those who find a way to bounce back quickly and get back on the horse, so to speak, the next day. They have this resilience because they don’t take day-to-day challenges personally and will do whatever it takes to remain positive in the face of difficulties to achieve their goals. Focus on all you have achieved and be content with where you are in your life. The beauty of our everyday experience is in those moments we generally take for granted, and oftentimes miss because we’re so caught up in our thoughts.

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